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Do you want to evaluate both your

Past and Present Life Balance?



 Perform these 2 Questionnaires to learn more about whether you have and are achieving Life Balance effectively or not?


To Assess Your Past Life Balance Click on this PDF Download



To Assess Your Present Life Balance Click on this PDF Download




How does achieving Life Balance differ from Stress Management

and Success Principles?


Life Balance is focused upon attaining maximum happiness in life, and while Stress Management is an important aspect of this, this is only through a minimisation of the pain we may experience that will distract away from our happiness. Similarly, the principles of Success are also critical to Life Balance, but only when these principles are applied in pursuit of personalised and weighted achievement, rather than runaway success in any single aspect of life. For where singular success at work or otherwise is chased and even achieved at the cost of other aspects of our lives (relationships, family, self integrity etc), Life Balance and ultimately happiness may be lost in what appears to be our victories.



Is it the same as Work-Life Balance?



Work Life-Balance forms a component of Life Balance, yet our work is not the only aspect of our lives that we may focus on excessively, at a cost to our Happiness. There are many areas to our lives, not just our employment, and a balance must be achieved between each of these for us to maximise our Happiness. So what are these Life Aspects?


The Life Aspects to consider are:


1.Self Development: Investigation of personal principles and ethics, development of emotional intelligence skills, introspection, journaling and meditation, and any other activity dedicated to increasing self-awareness.


2.Health: Exercise, diet, relaxation, environmental regulation and sleep health.


3.Self Expression: Music, art, sculpture, written expression, and other acts of creation, fulfilling your dreams…




5.Finances: The act of wealth accumulation for both security and abundance


6.Pleasures: What do you do to purely indulge yourself? Go to a restaurant or a movie. Purchase an expensive car or a boat. Out for a party or up for a holiday.


7.Partner: Do you commit quality time to an intimate partner?


8.Family: Parents, children, siblings


9.Friends: What time do you spend with your friends?


10.Social, Charitable, Political, Religious: Or other community organizations…





Where do you start in Understanding what you want from Life Balance?



Many people begin with a Mission Statement. This is a definition of all you want to be, do or have in your life in regards to the above life aspects (or anything else you can think off). Missions Statements are the starting point to orientating yourself towards your goals and dreams.


For an example Mission Statement and Your Own Mission Statement Sheet Click on this PDF




Is following a Mission Statement Enough? 


Mission Statements are helpful in defining what you want out of life, but you must next work out which of the goals you have listed are going to be given the most priority. In life we all have limited time and resources to apply to our dreams and goals and choosing what we apply ourselves to is the ultimate key to Life Balance.




So You should spend the most Time on what will give you

the greatest Happiness?






Not so fast. Do you actually know what will make you happiest? Have you actually spent time understanding what will make you happy, but furthermore, at what cost? Many people assume a better job, more money or otherwise will make them happy, but far too often this comes at the cost of other life aspects which have been demonstrated to be far more important for the majority of people.



So what makes us Happy?



Studies of happiness demonstrate that the following factors are important to happiness:


1.Achieving an adequate income to ensure you have the fundamental needs to survive; food and water, shelter, necessary transport etc for you and your family.


2.Good Health


3.Healthy Relationships with your Partner, Family and Community


4.Having and working towards dreams and goals that are realistically possible.




Nothing about climbing the Corporate Ladder, an Enormous Income,

Yachts, Wine, Women and Song?



No, but that is not to say you can’t have any of these! It is only to suggest that luxuries in life should not come at the expense of the above four key happiness indicators. There appears to be no substitute for Health, Relationships and Dreams when it comes to Happiness, even if the greater rewards in life can add additional pleasure to living. You can have your cake and eat it....You just can’t have the decorations without the cake!


So apart from Prioritising these Core Happiness Factors, can you suggest any other Key Ideas in achieving Life Balance?


Yes. There are many ways to structure your life in order to increase the likelihood of achieving Life Balance. These include:


1.You have an effective Stress Management programme to cope with any major set backs you experience.


2.You are able to effectively motivate yourself towards your Life Balance goals.


3.You are willing to explore issues in your past that may be consciously or unconsciously limiting your happiness and progress.


4.You have a diversity of interests, rather than just a single focus in your life.


5.You do not over commit to too many projects, goals, relationships in your life, that ultimately prevents you from adequately committing to each.


6.You do not build your life on single all important foundation stones, be it a relationship, a job or a dream. Think for a moment of the most important aspect of your life. Consider what would happen if this was taken away. Is this tied to every other aspect of life such that they would all come crashing down? E.g. You are in a relationship with your manager. Your friends are predominantly work friends. Your lifestyle is dependent to a large extent on your partner’s income. A relationship failure would mean that your employment, work related friendships and much of your lifestyle would in all likelihood become unsustainable, however well you coped specifically with the relationship ending.


7.You are able to keep focus on multiple aspects of life at once, not becoming obsessive about one aspect (a new work project, sporting commitments, a fresh relationship etc) such that you have tunnel vision and allow all else to suffer.


8.You continue to commit time and effort to those aspects of life that you already have. Many people fail to maintain what they have already attained. Most importantly, this includes relationships, which are often neglected and taken for granted over the long term. Many aspects of life require continual quality upkeep (partners, family, your own health), and this should never be forgotten.


9.Do the risks you take on in your life reflect the temperament you have for taking on risk? There should be a balance between the challengers in your life and your own willingness to win and lose. It is also important that this decision include what your family is willing to risk in your and their pursuit of success. It should be realised that feeling happily content may provide you with more Life Balance and ultimate satisfaction with life than nervously successful.


10.Do you not only know what you want of life, but understand what it will take to achieve each of your goals? Without this understanding you will have less chance to identify the appropriate opportunities that arise that will help you achieve your Life Balance objectives.


11.You should also frequently look for common pathways for achieving one or more of your Life Balance goals. This will help you progress more efficiently towards successful Like Balance.


12. Defining your personal principles can be very important in achieving Life Balance. Success may sometimes come at the cost of a loss of self integrity. Happiness cannot occur without inner peace, whatever you have attained in your bargain to succeed.


13.Have you worked with your partner and family to identify any incompatibilities between your personal goals such that the greater balance of the family can be achieved? Success and self realisation are important, yet there is also a limit to which it can be chased while sacrificing the same needs of others in your family unit.


14.Are there incompatibilities between different aspects of your life that need to be resolved? For instance, you may enjoy the live hard, party hard lifestyle, but is this compatible with your health, work performance and sporting commitments? Does one aspect of life, even if it is your number one priority, detract too much from the remainder of your goals and dreams to be sustainable over the short and long term.


15.You should apply your time, energy and money directly towards your Life Balance priorities. Anything otherwise is waste and inefficiency.


16.Furthermore you should not over commit yourself in regards to these resources. Make certain you know what you are investing yourself in and whether it is sensibly directed according to your Life Balance goals. This is also where prioritising between your individual goals is essential.


17.This means you must understand Time Management. However, Time Management can be a burden of its own. You should define what pace you want to follow in life rather than have a time management plan define an obsessive regime of efficiency for you. No one needs to be 100% efficient all of the time. Therefore your time management system should reflect the level of efficiency you require to achieve your present goals, leaving enough time where possible to nejoy life and relax.


18.Ultimately, you cannot control every aspect of your life. There will be wins and losses, mistakes and chance, successes and failures. After all is said and done, the qualities of Acceptance and Gratitude are vital to learn if you are to maintain Happiness and Life Balance throughout the trials, expected and unexpected, that life may throw at you.



Do You Want to Assess your Life Balance Weaknesses

according to these principles?


Click on this PDF for a comprehensive Life Balance Skills and Weaknesses Questionnaire.

Life Balance is learning the art of prioritsing your life's pursuits

in order to maximise happiness. The same goal is achieved through structuringyour life in a way in which this happiness may come about.

Achieving Life Balance and Perspective